When it comes to dating & relationships, we all have different experiences and opinions. We would like to share some of ours and hope you find them interesting.

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By Alpa Saujani
(Managing Director of Tantric Club)


HOW TO ASK FOR A NUMBER AND HOW TO SAY NO POLITELY

Have you ever been to an Asian Dating event where someone has asked you for your number and you've given them the incorrect digits? Or perhaps you have given out your number and subsequently avoided texts and phone calls because you were not interested and you simply did not know how to say no? more

IS THERE SUCH A THING AS A BAD DATE?

Is there really such thing as a bad date? If you’ve just nodded or screamed out YES in your head, have you ever wondered what causes you to feel this way? Furthermore, have you considered whether you contributed in making it a bad date? more

WHO SHOULD PAY ON A FIRST DATE?

In a day and age of equality and effectively meeting strangers through dating agencies, online dating sites and also via Asian dating events, what's the etiquette when it comes to paying the bill on the first date? Should the man pay? Should the woman pay? Or should you go dutch? more

ASIAN DATING: HOW TO FIND YOUR SOUL MATE

When people often think about a soul mate, they imagine an individual who will complete their lives: A soul mate will counteract your weaknesses with their strengths... you will perfectly complement one another and the relationship will fall into place with little or no effort... more

ASIAN DATING: DO YOU REALLY KNOW HOW TO HAVE A CONVERSATION?

After reading the title you may have thought 'what is she on about, of course I know how to have a conversation, I'm an adult not a child and I'm a successful professional who converses all day long...' And whilst this may all be true, when it comes to Asian dating & relationships, some people really do forget the art of good conversation.... more

HOW IMPORTANT IS THE CHASE AS PART OF THE DATING RITUAL?

The chase - how do you define it? A challenge? Mind games? Playing hard to get, or witty retorts? I guess it's all down to perception. But one thing's for sure, love it or loath it, it's the spark that ignites and fuels the dating ritual... more

ARE YOU FALLING FOR THE WRONG TYPE OF LOVE?

Are you unable to find real love because you're too busy wrapped up in unrequited love? Every time you see him/her your heart flutters. Just the anticipation of your paths crossing sets your pulse racing and when you're around them, you're filled with euphoria... more

ASIAN DATING: ARE YOU RUNNING BEFORE YOU CAN WALK?

They say you have to learn to walk before you can run and this couldn’t be more apt for when it comes to dating. However, when applying this to the Asian dating world, it’s often easier said than done. The pressures to find a life partner often leads to people forgetting and enjoying the art of dating. A first date is often treated... more

DATING & RELATIONSHIPS: SHOULD YOU JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER?

They say that ‘you should never judge a book by its cover’ but for the majority of people out there in the dating world seeking a partner, is this really feasible? Arguably, aren't you encouraged to have this attitude by online Asian dating sites, who clearly state that you have a better success rate when you add a photo to your profile? more

TO CASTE ASPERSIONS OR NOT?

When it comes to finding a life partner, how important is caste as a criteria? Is it based on your preferences, or your family’s? I can’t help but wonder that in an era where mixed race marriages are becoming more ‘visible’ within the Asian community, why caste is still at the forefront for some people? more

WHAT'S YOUR NEW YEAR'S DATING RESOLUTION?

Have you made any new year’s resolutions? How are they going? Many of us start of the New Year with great intentions to make changes to our lives and fulfil new goals. Feeling refreshed from the festive season break, we go forth but before long we risk... more

ARE YOU IN LOVE, LUST OR INFATUATED?

Have you ever experienced sparks of electricity running up and down your body when you have just met someone? The very thought of them makes you tingle and is a turn on. more

IS YOUR PARTNER CRITERIA LOSING YOU DATING OPPORTUNITIES?

When it comes to finding a partner, in some way or another we all have a criteria of the type of person that we are looking for. But how flexible are you with your criteria? Are you reducing the pool of potential partners by filtering out people for the wrong reasons? more

SINGLE? ARE YOU REALLY PUTTING YOURSELF OUT THERE?

For some singles, the intention and desire to meet someone is often there. However, the action required to fulfil this aspiration is frequently lacking or superficial. Logically, we know that in life if we want something, then we have to be proactive. So what stops single people from really putting themselves out there? more

NOT GETTING TO A SECOND DATE?

Despite your best efforts, second dates are becoming a rarity. So what’s going on? And more importantly, can you do anything about it? more

THE UNTAPPED SOURCE FOR SINGLES SEEKING A PARTNER

Friendship is popularly cited as the key to successful relationships & marriages. So this got me thinking, perhaps there’s an untapped source being overlooked by many single people? more

ARE YOU DATING & GAME PLAYING?

Whilst honesty is a trait highly sought by both men and women seeking their life partner, the irony is that during the dating process, it’s also the trait that many struggle to display. Yes, I’m referring to game playing in the dating world. more

DATING: ARE YOU PUNCHING ABOVE YOUR WEIGHT?

When it comes to dating, are you trying to punch above your weight? What happens when you consistently do not get the results that you desire? Is it time to put the ego aside and reassess your game plan? more

ASIAN DATING: HAVE WE BECOME SPOILT WITH TOO MANY CHOICES?

Is too much choice a bad thing? From arranged marriages, where potential partner choices were limited to a handful, to a booming dating industry where potential partner choices can be in there hundreds. Have we gone from one extreme to another when it comes to finding a life partner? more

VALENTINES - LOVE IT OR LOATH IT?

Valentine's Day, love it or loath it, it comes around every year. Whilst it may seem great when you have someone special to share it with but what about when you are single? What does it mean to you? We decided to ask some Tantric Club members for their opinions. more

DATING & REJECTION - HOW CLEAR IS YOUR CONSCIENCE?

If you’re in the dating game, there’s a good chance that at some point you are going to be faced with rejection – either as someone doing the rejection, or being rejected. But often the angst is not caused by the other person no longer wishing to continue dating but by the way in which they communicate this, or not. more

WEDDING RINGS - WHEN DID THEY GO IN & OUT OF FASHION?

Once upon time when you spotted a stranger that you were attracted to, one of the first things that most people would do is check for a wedding band... more

I AM STILL SINGLE BUT...

Well yes I am still single, but I think the problem is that there are no decent partners left out there for me. I have tried some online dating but I have not really met anyone. more

WHERE IS THE GRASS GREENER: SINGLEDOM OR MARRIAGEDOM?

As a singleton in search of a partner you may well believe that the grass is greener on the other side. In many cases it is - marriage and relationships can be wonderful things that contribute so much to our lives. However, simply having a relationship won't guarantee anything. more

WOULD YOU DATE A MAN WHO WANTS TO LIVE WITH HIS PARENTS?

With a growing number of professional single Asian women fleeing the nest and living independently, many are not willing to entertain the prospect of moving in with a partner’s parents. more

WHAT MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND – MONEY OR LOVE?

Traditionally, men have been breadwinners and women homemakers. But in a day & age where both men and women are in high profile jobs, earning accordingly, does it make a difference who is earning more money? more

UNCERTAINTY: THE BIGGEST RELATIONSHIP KILLER?

In the current economic climate, where many people are living in uncertainty regarding their job security, is it really too much to ask, to not bring this into our personal relationships? more

THE PHONE CALL: WHY DIDN'T IT COME?

It’s Saturday night, you’re out with a few friends and unexpectedly you meet a handsome stranger. You end up spending most of the evening flirting, drinking, laughing, talking & dancing... more

BY BEHAVING SHEEPISH WHEN IT COMES TO USING DATING SERVICES, ARE WE MAKING A BIG DEAL OUT OF NOTHING?

Let’s be honest, we all harbour romantic notions of meeting the person of our dreams serendipitously. But the harsh reality is that whilst juggling successful & demanding careers, busy lifestyles... more

IN AN IMPERFECT WORLD, WHY ARE SO MANY PEOPLE SEARCHING FOR THE PERFECT PARTNER?

Like many others, you’re still single. You feel like you’ve been waiting for the right person before you happily join the world of marriagedom. Along comes someone who ticks many of your boxes but... more

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